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Monday, February 11, 2013

Mugs & Muffins :: Re-learning to Love - {Guest Post & Giveaway! - NOW CLOSED} by Jenn B. from A Country Girl's Ramblings

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Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him
 make her sorry to see him leave.   ~ Martin Luther

Welcome Ladies and dear hearts...

It is good to be starting out this week with another round of Mugs & Muffins.  Wow!  It feels like it's been a long time that we've held one here.  I tell you it's going to be a special one today and especially because it is Valentines' Week.   So, sit down and enjoy yourself.  I hope you'll StayThat you'll savor this moment meant for you.  Grab your cup of coffee, if you haven't done so already and let's go ahead and pass around these muffins, too while we're at it.  The recipe will be at the end of this post.

These are called Lemon - Butter Muffins.  They're a good way to get you to pucker up.  :)  Perhaps?
My 4 year old daughter, Aubrey, and I decided to throw in some poppy-seeds, just for some variation.  We also glazed some, with a lemon glaze - which make these really, really yummy.

The ones in the photo are not glazed.

:: Guest Speaker ::

When I  asked my friend Jenn if she would have anything to share for today - I gave her a prompt/idea or two, maybe something for Valentine's Day, family related or on Marriage... and this is what she sent me.

It's good!

 Dear Bevy,

This post has a bit of a different take on Valentine’s day.  Often we get caught up in everyday living, busy with house, children, and life and we lose the connection with our husbands.  OR, our husbands aren’t loving us as we think they should and so we shut down.  Hoping this one from the archives helps someone out there in blogland.

~ Jenn

I can tell you ... I know it sent me to tears the minute I started to read this because I remembered this post from when she originally shared it on her own blog some time ago.  I so needed this good reminder and I'm sure it will bless you as well. 

 Let's hear from Jenn...

Re-learning to Love
I remember when I was dating my husband, Joel how I couldn’t wait to be able to do his laundry, to cook his meals, to keep his house.   I waited impatiently to care for him exclusively.  I wanted to meet his every need.  I just knew in my heart I would never tire of taking care of him.
Oh how I wish that were the end of the story, but I do not live a fairytale life.
Somewhere along the line the novelty wore off.  The thrill of keeping my own house became more of a chore. I was waiting for words of appreciation that never came and so I impatiently served. In the process I lost sight of the importance of the job God had called me to. 
I soon talked myself into the believing it was just easier to disconnect rather than put so much effort into my marriage. Married life was not what I had envisioned. I felt alone most of the time and I slowly almost imperceptibly began to dislike doing anything extra for my husband. I had buried the joy of serving.
As a young girl, I foolishly thought this would never happen to me.  I thought I would forever and ever love taking care of my husband.  I thought I would always find it exciting and fulfilling.  And because I was na├»ve and thought love should be all bubbles and rainbows, I quit trying to find the joy in serving my husband.
Giving in to selfishness was the worst thing I could have done.  My love began to fade.  I saw all the annoyances in his behavior.  I desired less and less to do that little extra for him.  It became a sense of duty.  Gone was the joy, the happiness, the thrill I had once felt for caring for my soul mate. 
Complacency and selfishness can be such killers.  Killers of love.  Killers of decency.  Killers of giving.  Killers of commitment.  Killers of grace.
Eventually, God brought me to my senses. He shook me awake. He showed and is still showing me my tendency to be quite selfish.
Praise God, He is a God of Love! He is guiding me.  Helping me to find the joy in serving my husband.   He is showing me ways to go farther, to do more, to meet the needs Joel has.  He is giving me a deeper, stronger, amazing love for my man.
The thrill, the electricity, the love, the desire to meet Joel's every need is back.  As I look to God to guide me, He gently takes my heart in his hands and infuses into it the love that seeped out.  He is showing me that He has created me to serve.  I have learned I cannot put myself first and be truly happy.  To experience joy I must give of myself.  To know my forever and ever love I must give my heart to serving even when it is difficult.

“….serve one another in love.”  Ephesians 5:13
  Seeking Him,


For our Giveaway today, Jenn is giving away a four-pack of these Red-Hot Valentine Cards.  She, obviously, is the photographer and when I pull the winner - I will email Jenn your information and she will get these mailed out to you as soon as she is able.  

Here is a better view of the front of the card.

Your comment today will give you one chance to win...

Please be sure to go online to Jenn's etsy shop and also to her photography page (see above links)... to see what else she has.  This gal is amazing.  AND award-winning...
Jenn is a very talented woman, as you can see.  She is a mama to four awesome kids... an encourager and a beautiful soul, all around.

I love her heart.

To enter for the giveaway... leave a comment here today! I'll even count Facebook Comments - this time!  The winner will be randomly selected, via a number generator and notified by email.  If you comment anonymously, please be sure to include your name and email address.  Thanks!

This giveaway will close tonight at 10pm. EST.  Winner announced by email.  This way the set of four Valentine cards can be mailed out to you ASAP!!

If reading Jenn's words weren't enough for you - here is another good read, that I found the other evening.  An Old Fashioned Wife. - by fellow blogger, Clarita Yoder.

This also might spark some great discussion in and among the comments.  I hope to hear from you.  I know I was convicted... and challenged by both of these great posts.  Keeping the above quote in mind...
"Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him
 make her sorry to see him leave."
I would love to hear your thoughts on ways you choose to keep Romance alive in your marriage.

What have you done? What are you planning?  How can  something that might seem lost be rekindled?


 Lemon - Butter (poppy seed) Muffins
1/2 cup fresh lemon juice
2 large eggs
2 T. lemon rind, freshly grated
1/2 cup butter, melted
2 cups all-purpose flour, unsifted
1/2 cup, plus 2 T. sugar
1 T. baking powder
1 tsp. salt
1 T. (or so) of Poppy Seeds (optional)

Preheat oven to 400*.  Grease muffin tins well.  Stir lemon juice, eggs, (poppy seeds, opt.) and lemon rind into melted butter.  In another bowl, mix together flour, 1/2 cup sugar, baking powder, and salt; make a well into the center.  Stir in egg mixture and blend until well moistened.  Pour into muffin tins, filling each cup about two-thirds full.  Sprinkle tops of muffins with remaining 2 T. of sugar.  Bake for 15-20 minutes or until lightly browned.  Yield: 18-24 muffins.


psst: Here is a great packaging idea that I found on Pinterest if you would like to take one of those muffins home with you, for your man.
Stud muffin

Happy Valentine's Day!!


  1. Love the quote by Martin Luther... it goes perfectly with what I was trying to say! AND I loved the idea you shared from pinterest, it made me laugh!

    1. Oh, you're welcome. I know... isn't it great? Both the quote and the pinterest idea...

  2. Such a thought provoking post. After awhile it is so easy to take your spouse for granted and want your own way. Well... speaking for myself anyway. God laid this message on my heart earlier this year and reading this was just a confirmation of what I've been learning. Thanks for posting this.

    1. I agree with the taking for granted! After 20 years of marriage I see myself falling into this now and again... not a pretty place! :) Thank you for your comment.

    2. Kathy, thanks for coming by here again today. I too have been walking through this and Jenn's words are certainly for me - just as much as anyone.

  3. Such a well written, encouraging post Jenn! Always appreciate your insight...

    1. Thank you so much Sandi!!!

    2. I just wanted to say hello to you Sandi, and thank you for stopping by!

  4. How fun, Bevy, that you had Jenn to guest post on your blog! I remember that post when she originally put it up on her blog, too. It is a lovely, and insightful one especially as we consider our Valentine's this week. May the LORD help us all to love well...and without any strings attached!!

    Have a wonderful week!

    1. Thank you, dear friend for the comment!

    2. Amen! Camille...thanks for swinging by here today.

  5. Replies
    1. Hi! Ashley. I know you addressed Jenn here but I wanted to thank you for stopping by.

      Isn't Jenn's words so encouraging? And you're right... beautiful, too.

  6. Jenn! So true and full of wisdom. I have been there, but i am more in love now than i could ever have imagined! thanks for sharing.

    1. Hello Michelle - again, you're also addressing Jenn - but I wanted to at least say a big Thank You for coming by here today.

      It's always neat to see new faces... Are you a regular reader of Jenn's? Jenn always blesses me...

  7. For the record there are three ladies over on Facebook that were included in this drawing...

    Connie S.
    Tracy C.
    Melissa S.

    Thanks ladies for your thoughts over there...
    Great to have you be part of today.


Thanks for coming by, today! You're visits always mean so much...

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