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Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Who surrounds you?

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Well, this statement stopped me in my tracks!!

I was listening to a radio preacher the other morning and this is what he said.

If folks are on your nerves then they probably are not on your heart.


In other words...
If people are not on my heart (and mind) they're on my nerves!

Same thing!

 How many times does this hold true for me. In particular with me as a mother!  My children get on my nerves and so can other people, at times.  Obviously, this statement implies I don't have a deep care and love for them in the first place...therefore, I must have a relationship problem... because I react with my head and not with my heart.  True... maybe!?
He went on to say... and I'm paraphrasing...

To get people off your nerves you've got to get them on and in your heart!

To love like Jesus loves.
We must surround others with patience and with understanding.

Let me tell you - this is way easier said than done.

I really took this to heart and decided to really pay close attention to the what, how and when of "my nerves" being rattled ... as it pertains, in particular, to mothering.

I noticed something.  Usually when someone "got on my nerves" it was because:
 My agenda was being inflicted...
 My schedule was being up-ended...
My expectations were not being met...
Me. Me. Me.

Quite frankly - I knew where this was going... and fast!
It's NOT meant to be about me.

To love means to surround others with patience and understanding and put one's own self last.

This is how Jesus loved!

This is hard!  Quite frankly, I can't do this by myself.  I can't give out what I do not have.  I need more and MORE of Christ's love to the fullness.  I want to overflow...

With patience and with kindness.  With understanding...which means I really have to take time to sit and listen to the needs of others that surround me.

Scriptures say, for out of the heart the mouth speaks!

The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks. ~ Luke 6:45

I don't know about you - and what you're thoughts are on this... perhaps you'll share in the comment section below, but I got to thinking this - that as blunt as this statement is... I'll take it!  I'll use it as a measuring tool.  A guide to really evaluate my level of love and care I have in my heart - for others.

Here is the question we should all ask ourselves.

Who surrounds you? 
 Are they on your nerves or on your heart?


  1. Ok, Bevy this is happening way to much...Your Post meant for me..Honestly, I have looked into why people get on my nerves, not persay my kids, but everyone else.. Hubby included... Oh my word.. and honestly I know its me, its my expectations of him and all the others.. Sometimes I just wish I lived in a cave away from everyone.. I am tired of everyone taking, taxing the life out of me.. I feel unappreciated, taken for granted, just tired. So I get it but its like you said, easier said than done. Because honestly part of me don't want to give to them anymore, feel like why bother, I just know I need a break.. So I pray, I pray daily for change.. Honesty is a super important virtue for me and others find it so difficult.. Simply don't get the dishonesty gene.. Praying for you, as I know you will be praying for me.. WOw.. It blows me away how its directed right at me.. and you knew none of this but GOD sure did... WOW...

  2. such an honest post, bless you.

  3. So needed this. What an eye opener. Thanks for sharing.

  4. What a great post to stir up the heart of this Mama...thank you for sharing your heart here. Hugs to you! Camille

  5. Ouch is right! That's a great point.
    Thank you for stopping by my site. :)


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