Quiet and common notions...shared here...with you! Of life ~ our hearts and our home.

Friday, February 26, 2010

Here's to Caleb for keeping life in perspective!

My two and a half year old - Caleb- has been really improving in his speech and thought process.  You may remember that we've had to go to Speech Therapy for a couple of weeks (last year) to get a "jump" on his speech... but he's been coming around VERY WELL, and he no longer needs to go to these sessions anymore.  Yeah!!


He will still get his word association mixed up at times.  But mommies are always good at interruptation interpretation, aren't they?  I almost said interruption because I feel like I have to correct him... but how can I when he says this?

Caleb:  "I wanna go home..."
Me:  "but ,we are home, buddy".  (See?  I do interrupt and I try -again- to explain the differance of going somewhere verses being at home).
Interpretation: I want to go away, or go outside, or go somewhere other then here.  I think he gets it from hearing other people say 'they're going to go home' when they leave our house.

Caleb: (continues to say) "to see Jesus!"
Interpretation:  I think this comes from whenever we talk about going away to Church on Sunday Mornings that we're going to go to sing praises to Jesus, pray to Jesus, etc.

I wanna go home, to see Jesus
This should be our life statement.  Our life goal.  I know far too often I find many an interruption in my life... with life itself.  Life gets in the way.  I (myself) get in the way... if you know what I mean? 

I'm just glad that when Caleb says it fifty-thousand times in one day... I can at least STOP! (without interruption) to think about it for a moment and say;  "I wanna go HOME, too!"  I love how he keeps life in perspective for me on a daily basis.

Friday's Finds {no. 7/10}

I've been looking out my kitchen window this afternoon (I wrote this yesterday) and feeling like I'm looking on at a snowglobe - getting all shook up.  Remember those fun things? 

I wonder, why is it that we're not hearing all of these fabulous songs, playing on the radio; "Let it snow! Let it snow!  Let it snow!" and "Walkin' in a winter wonderland...", right now?  

I suppose everybody is ready (or getting ready) for Spring!! in some way or another.

But, here we go with our area's round four of Snow for the season.  I have friends all over blogworld talking of choosing and buying their seeds or plants and getting their gardens ready.  They're actually showing pictures of their playing in the dirt and their leafy greens ready to plant.  We won't be seeing that, around here, for - a long while.  Instead, we'll be making mud pies...

The weather outside is frightful...
You should hear the wind howling.  It's making me feel like White Chicken Chili and Cornmeal Rolls for supper tonight.  My sister actually sent me a recipe for these rolls that I'm going to just have to try.  I will have to see how they turn out and share the recipe with you later - you know, as a pre-feature for today's Friday's Finds.  ;)  As well as this... I'm trying to warm up the kitchen with some good smellin' "cozy". 
Lit candles are always a good thing, too.

The fire is so delightful...Enjoy the snowflakes- building one on top of another; your cozy kitchens; your hands playing in the dirt... whatever it is!   Wherever you find yourself...  And since we've got no place to go, maybe, we'll get a chance to walk around outside in that winter wonderland, sometime this weekend.

On the lane, the snow is glistening...
~~~~~ In the meadow we can build a snowman.~~~~

Oh, yeah. I wanted to tell you all that Caleb and Aubrey did notice a fun sign of spring outside our bay window off of the dining room, the other day.

Here they noticed a bunny...sitting there, looking all around... It looked as though he wanted to have some sort of conversation. But, since "bunnies say nothing at all" (a line from one of our children's books) ... the conversation was definitly one-sided. The children were certainly entertained, and very thrilled. Or, should I say -LOUDLY thrilled, as there were fingers pointed, lots of gibber-gabber and yelling out the window.  The bunny soon hopped back into his or her cozy little home under our back porch.  But I was surprised that they didn't actually scare him off. 

It doesn't show signs of stopping.

We're hanging in there.  Mr. Bunny, we're looking for some green grass too, little guy.

Have a safe, cozy weekend everyone!!

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Blog Randomness...

Hey, thanks everyone for all the great comments you left- regarding my recent button post.  You all have some really good ideas - or not.  Some of you have joined forces with the "thousand excuses"-  to which I just smiled.  Not that I'm condoning laziness (in myself or you)... but you've found this all to be so relatable. ((sigh))  I can appreciate it.

If you're wondering where I was yesterday... I was at my sister's place making a couple of batches of cinnamon rolls again.  All, but three, of us (nine) siblings got together, along with our little ones, to have a sister's/baking day.  It went pretty well. And it is so nice to have fresh baked goods available to out of the freezer for those random guests.  You know who you are...
My sister also made (wonderful) Potato Pie for lunch.  I'll have to do a post on Potato Pie sometime. It's so good!!

It's snowing beautifully here again today... it sounds like we're in for another "large PA snowstorm" over the next day or two.  And, I don't know if I'm calling this an excuse or not... but I "fell off the roof" this morning.  So, I think I'll just putz around the house in sweats and a t-shirt all day.... sipping on hot coffee and sneaking in a chocolate or two.  I hope the little ones feel like "relaxing" right along with me today. 

Maybe I'll sort a few buttons.  If not buttons, at least the laundry. ;)

: : To "fall off the roof" is an expression for getting your monthly cycle.  A phrase, I grew up using, that I quickly forget others may not know what I'm referring to.  oops!  Sorry!

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Button. Button. Who's got a button?

I've been learning something about myself and my love of buttons... or NOT. 

I found this quote yesterday that pretty much says it exactly like it is, with me.

"Where the heart is willing it will find a thousand ways, but where it is unwilling it will find a thousand excuses." ~ Anonymous
To really put it into perspective...

If a button is to be put onto a garment - replaced for necessity reasons.  Forget it!  The clothing will sit there on a pile, for SOMEDAY! Right?  Like for that proverbial rainy day? which ironically it happens to be raining...today.

But, if I have buttons that need to go onto a bag - let's say, for Bags by Bevy?  I'm all over that.  And they
get placed in a heartbeat... and three or more for each bag... with lottsa

Interesting (discovered) fact, about me-self, I say. 

I was going through my sewing room a bit yesterday and found a dress shirt of Scott's and several dresses of Aubrey's that need buttons sewn back on.  Of course, by now the dresses do not fit Aubrey.  So, that said, maybe I'm off the hook. But still, I've also got the largest button collection of anyone I know.... and it's taken, how long?  ((sigh))

Honest confession is good for the soul, my old school teacher used to say.  And well, now you all know... one of my home-keeping challenges of domesticity. ((sigh))

Perhaps the next BEST thing would be to sit and organize the button bin - because all you can really see are little plastic bags (with not a lot of ryhme or reason - well some are organized, but not all of them).  And. Then.  Perhaps on to organzing the WHOLE sewing room.  But here again, this quote comes to life...

"Where the heart is willing it will find a thousand ways, but where it is unwilling it will find a thousand excuses." ~ Anonymous

((sigh!))  Yet, I have to ask.  Does anyone relate?  Are you like me in this, at all?

Monday, February 22, 2010


Remember this?? 

 I  F*I*N*A*L*L*Y finished this bag, last week, despite everyone having their turn of being sick.  This bag ~Colonial Gardens~  is a special order for a friend of our family. 
I think she may be coming by sometime this week to pick it up. 
Hope you love it, Barb, and thank you for your order!

~Colonial Gardens~


~Quiet Beauty~
Made it's way out of my etsy shop this weekend.
I was so happy to make another - my first official SALE for the New Year!
Thank you so much, Kristy!

We had a WONDERFUL weekend.  Busy, but blessed.  How about you?

Friday, February 19, 2010

Friday's Finds: {no. 6/10}

What does this picture make you think of? 
 I quickly jotted down a few things that readily came to mind.  Can you think of a few more?

"Counting the days, till..."

"all in a days work"

"I got all wrapped up in my day"

"Today is Tomorrow's Yesterday"

"This is the day that the Lord hath made, let us rejoice and be glad in it"

"Give us this day - our daily bread"


My favorite thought is this...

"Do not boast about tomorrow; for you do not know what a day may bring forth" ~ Proverbs 27:1

This verse helps me to keep my thoughts about my day (or weeks ahead) in perspective.  I share all of this with you today as my Friday's Finds.  When I look at these towels rolled up - as part of my kitchen decor, I can either just see them as they are or I can see them as SIMPLE day-to-day reminders of God's specifc grace given for each and every day.  I will often have to tell myself,  " One day at a time, Bevy.  One day at a time."
I found the towels at Ross (most likely) and I love that they have a vintage feel to them, even though they are reproduction.  The tins that are housing the towels are quite old... from my mother's collection, handed down to me,  from somewhere within her family.  They're hard to see, but the tin, standing in the back is an old fudge tin...the other, I believe, is just an old tea loaf tin, though I'm not sure.  It might've been a pan used at one time for forming homemade scrapple or mush.  ;)  I'll have to ask her again - to see if she remembers.

Have a wonderful weekend - everyone.  Enjoy each new day as a gift from God!

I say that with tongue in cheekThis day is a gift from God even though that "BUG"/virus still hasn't quite figured out how to crawl on outta here.  Please pray for us... today, it's my turn.  Clarification:  Scott is doing much better, though it took a couple of days. (thanks for asking!!)  Now it's my turn.  I just can't afford to be sick - you know?  Everybody counts on mom!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Doughnut Day Recipes!

Hey, you almost didn't get these recipes even today.  Little Miss Aubrey - wanna-be-secretary - finds herself too busy and very intrigued by the computer and pretty much demolished our laptop keyboard last evening.  Unknowingly to me, because you see, I can't be everywhere present, at all times.  I am so glad that Scott found ALL the missing pieces/keys.  And painstakenly put it all back together - though he was begging to go to bed the minute he walked in the front door - home from work.  (BTW: He's got the bug, now).  I was sorry that he had to come home to this... and my negligence. 

I told him this is how simple my mind is in regards to computers.  The fact that he could put the keys back into the keyboard correctly, and without breaking anything further proves to me - right here and now - that he is ONE COMPUTER GENIUS!!  I love my man.  Thanks, honey!


So, here are those doughnut recipes I was teasing you all with.  Oh~ and when I asked Scott if he took notice of all your sweet comments yesterday he says, yeah! either we're getting alot of company or we're going to be doing alot of travelling in the near future.  Where to, I wonder - TN? MI? VA? MO?  - I don't know - just guessing...just teasing.  Don't get your hopes up now, either.

~Easy Light Wheat Applesauce Doughnuts~

3 cups white flour
1 1/2 cups whole wheat flour
3 tsp. baking powder
1 tsp. baking soda
1 tsp. salt
1/2 tsp. nutmeg
1/4 tsp. cloves
1 1/4 tsp. cinnamon
2/3 cup buttermilk
1/2 cup applesauce
1/4 cup melted butter
1 tsp. vanilla
2 eggs, beaten
1 cup granulated sugar

Combine first 8 ingredients in large bowl and blend well.  Combine remaining ingredients.  Mix well.  Add to dry ingredients.  Stir just till well moistened.  Chill dough.  On a well-floured surface, toss dough lightly until no longer sticky.   Roll dough to 3/8" thickness.  Cut with floured doughnut cutter.  Deep-fry in hot fat (375*, I use electric skillet) about 1 1/2 minutes on each side or until golden brown.  Cool slightly.  Dust with powdered sugar.  ( I did glaze some of mine, which were delicious as well).


~Fluffy Raised Doughnuts~

2 cups lukewarm water
1 T. yeast
1/2 cup vegetable oil
1/2 cup sugar
2 eggs, well beaten
2 tsp. salt
Approximately 6 cups flour

Soften yeast in water.  Add next four ingredients, then 2 cups of flour. Let rise 30 minutes, add rest of flour, just enough to work well with your hands.  Knead till smooth.  Let rise until double.  Lay out, do not punch down or use rolling pin, just pat it out and cut with doughnut cutter.  Let rise again. 
Fry in hot fat, deep enough so doughnuts float.  I used the electric skillet with the temperture at 375*. 
This recipe can also be used for sticky buns, the cookbook said.   So, I decided I would give it a whirl.  I made one small batch of cinnamon rolls. using up the scraps of dough left from cutting out the doughnuts.

You re-roll the dough.  Spread melted butter over the dough.  Sprinkle brown sugar - generously.  Then sprinkle cinnamon over that. Roll length side (I'm rolling rather uncomfortably here, because my long side was not in front of me).
Then you slice the rolled up dough into equal pieces.  Place rolled side down on to generously buttered baking pan.  Let rise until almost doubled.   And bake at 350* for 20 minutes or so until done.


...here comes the good stuff.

Hide those buns under some good ole D*E*L*I*C*O*U*S caramel icing.  Yum!

~Caramel Icing~1/2 cup brown sugar
2 T. milk or cream
4 T. butter
Powdered Sugar
1/4 tsp. vanilla (opt.)
 Mix and let come to a boil.  Cool and then add Powdered Sugar to right consistency.  Add vanilla.

Here is the glaze recipe for the other doughnuts.

2 egg whites
2 lbs. powdered sugar (almost 7 cups)
3/4 cup hot water
 Mix all together.  It gets kind of frothy.  Dip doughnuts.

** Now.  Do you understand why I love my man for fixing our broken keyboard?  Write a comment thanking Scott for his labor of love - once again.  And, now you know why I doubt our daughter will be having any more doughtnuts for awhile?  She's bad - but, oh so sweet!, all at the same time.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Faschnut Day!!

Or, I like to call it "Doughnut Day" - except that I discovered that there already is a nationally known day devoted to doughnuts - the first friday, of the month of June.  Oh well....

Why Faschnut Day?  I'm not sure (I couldn't find much on this in looking it up online), so correct me if you do know that I am wrong on this.  But I think it has something to do with what folks know today as "Fat Tuesday", "Shrove Tuesday" or in some places "Mardi Gras" (which I don't nessecarily condone or celebrate).  Depending on where your from, it all has to do with Lent or Ash Wednesday (which is today).  And, from what I understand.  The PA Dutch folks used this day to rid of all their excess yeast before Lent season, therefore making faschnuts (or square doughnuts.) 

Square Doughnuts? -these are doughnuts with no holes cut out of the center.  No wasting, I suppose.    I don't know, I could totally be making this up.  I just know that I was in the mood for a doughnut or two. And I felt totally inspired - It was snowing again today.  With having no vehicle today for me to go anywhere, today, (all week, I might add) - donut day it was, and so I chose to make two different kinds. 

One, Fluffy Raised Doughnuts and the other, Easy Light Wheat Applesauce Doughnuts.  I know I promised the recipe to a couple of my friends today - but you're going to have to wait until my next post or whenever I get around to it.  Sorry!

There were no square donuts involved here.  I used my Grammy's spider skillet, which I don't use very often.  It worked pretty good.  It got the job done, I would say.  And we DID NOT use lard to fry them in.  Any questions?

One trick.  Something I do remember my mom doing when she would make glazed doughnuts is to take dowel rods and use them over a bowl to catch the glaze drippings.  These dowel's came from those cloth calenders, you know?  And, I've kept several in my kitchen drawer FOREVER - wanting to use them for this reason.  Caleb keeps on finding them and using them for "drum sticks". ;)

I was surprised at how well this worked for us.  We let the doughnuts cool a bit on paper towels and then while still warm, threw them into the glaze, gave them a good coat and hung them up to drip-dry before putting them out onto the cooling racks.

These are the Wheat Applesauce Doughnuts which are definitly a cake-like doughnut.  So most of these we sprinkled powdered sugar, and a few got glazed as well.  So good!!  Can't wait to share this recipe with you all.


I also had a few taste testers!

Yes!  you see my brother Justin holding Aubrey.  I called over to my mom's before I started this project to find out if she would be available to answers any questions I might have along the way.  Justin answered the phone.  No! mom was at work, but he offered to come over and help with the kids....uhhh, I think it was to taste test, too.  I let him.  He was a HUGE help.  And I greatly appreciated his offer.


One thing that today is, is National Day of Random Acts of Kindness Day!!  So, having that in mind.  I wrapped up a few to hand out to our neighbors and some for our landlord and his wife.  I know they enjoyed because earlier this evening our phone began  to ring with guesses of "were you the ones who gave us doughnuts?".  So, I'm glad... I could bless someone a day early.


And, now we're all fat and happy around here.  The recipes will be coming later... hang in there.  I promise.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Snow Clothes

There is nothing like a clean, new blanket (or covering) of snow.  Is there?


When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
~ Proverbs 31:21-22, 25


I've been thinking lately how I need to know clothes of scarlet.  Do you ever have these moments, where you just need to know, that you know... that you know?

Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter then snow.
~ Psalm 51:7

Monday, February 15, 2010

As parents, we...

We ask for Wisdom on how best to parent our children, right?  We're young and inexperienced.  We need wisdom.

Well, let's just say - God in his wisdom has decided that we need on the spot training.  Last week it was Aubrey.  Now, last night, as though this were some "give and take" sort of game... Caleb decides its "Caleb's turn".  If he were coherant enough to add to the conversation -  that's exactly what he would say.

Except. Buddy.  This is not a game, nor is it funny

He ended up being so sick through out this whole last night.  Caleb probably threw up at least 6-8 times, and we're totally baffled as to if it was something that he ate or what?  I think between Scott and I we got about 3 hours of sleep - ironically, I would feel the bug crawl and then so would Scott (although the bug knew better, with us).  Again, we're not sure if it was empathy feelings or if it was for real.  Of course, Aubrey tried a round of it again, too.  That said. 

I, once again, thank God for a wonderful husband who chose to willingly sacrifice the comforts of his own bed to sleep on the kids bedroom floor, prepared for action, at any point...which it did come with full bore, yes indeed.

So.  The wisdom moment has arrived.  With credit to my friends Lee & Gail who have told us, "don't try to move your kids (in the moment) to have them barf in the bathroom, across the way... let them stay in one spot (unless the kid comes running to you, in which case, it's too late) so that the mess stays more or less contained".  And number two.  This would explain why my parents would keep "puke buckets" under each of us kid's bed.  We weren't allowed to play with them, nor move them.  Now, I understand, mom.  I get it. 

"Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding." ~Proverbs 3:13 - KJV
This is just one small realm, in the whole scheme of parenting, isn't it?  Lord help us, I pray... I ask you, dear blogger friends, to also pray for us (for healing) and for me as a tired mama, that for this day, I would find strength enough to "hang in there"... for wisdom to know what to do for each moment, of this day, as it comes.

So, when is wisdom attained?  After it's been understood, experienced and learned or just by hearing words of advice and thinking "you know, that sounds like a really great idea"?  Because I honestly don't want to have to have another night like that, again. at least in days and weeks, back to back, like it's been.  You'd think by the sounds of that, we're really wise, now, on how to handle kids "tossing their cookies" in the middle of the night.

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Simply Sweet Ideas...

Simple, simple Valentine's Day ideas.  What you could do for friends or family.
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 I love this one ~  You can check it out here.   You know how I feel about handwritten notes...

And, I don't usually do any real decorating for Valentine's Day... but I have decorated someone's car once with candy "Hugs & Kisses", one right after the other, all across the dashboard of their car.  Sweet!!  at least I thought so...

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Heart shaped pancakes for your family's breakfast.

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Easy-peasy treat to make with your family ~ for your family.

Gather all your ingredients.  Tom Sturgis *little ones* pretzels work the best.  Unwrapped kisses.  M & M's (using colors to match the mood of the season/event your making these for).

Get your little ones involved.  Without eating too many.

Watch closely for about two minutes.

Peppermint Kisses (red and white striped) are fun to use, but I'll be honest... Chocolate (of any kind) is a faarrrrrrrrrrrrrrr better choice, to use, in my humble opinion.

This is what happens when you use whatever you have on hand.  In this case I picked out all the red and brown M & M's to give me what I needed.  Obviously Peppermint Kisses were leftover from Christmas, but who knew?  Pretzels are always around here at our house.  ;)

Serve up with a huge smile!
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Go out on a date with your mate, which I cannot believe my man wants to take this ole Sour-puss out on a "real date" tonight, but he does.  I really am so blessed, because I don't deserve someone as sweet as he.

** That is, if we can find someone to babysit.  You know - last minute stuff, and all.  I still think it is a simply sweet idea, even if it doesn't happen. **

Friday, February 12, 2010

Winter Scenes - fresh from this last round...

 We got every bit, if not at least, 20" of snow this last round.

There are supposed to be two cars under this snow.  This is looking out across towards our neighbors.

 So beautiful.  And these pictures were all taken without setting a toenail outside. ;)

 Icicles - Looking outside my kitchen window to the back side of our neighbors house. 

 This fence was so pretty to look at.  I'm such a sucker for snow covered fences.

And then we have Mr. A (our landlord) who gets a little tractor happy, and he starts to plow out the front yard after he's done plowing the driveway.  He's too funny.

It was wonderful being snowed in, with my hubby home for a day and a half.  ALL was wonderful - except that having little ones, sick at the same time....isn't so fun.  I'm so thankful for all that Scott did to
"help me get through" this round.

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Sometimes.  Sometimes ICE is nice!!

 With Aubrey being so sick all this week.  This was one way (almost the only way) I could keep her happy, entertained and hydrated.  Of course, Caleb was in on the fun, too.

In desperation, I pulled an old trick out of the hat from our Summer Days - Were ICE is Nice and just plain COOL ENTERTAINMENT.  It worked. 

But we're getting out of this house... TODAY!!!!! 

Have a Blessed Weekend, everyone.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

My secret is Not so secret...

...now that I'm about to share it with you all.  It's not so bad... so here it is.  This is the fourth & final part to "Why does marriage take such heart work anyway?"

Pray for your spouse.  How do I do it?  Well, this is isn't written in stone, by any means...and often when I find myself praying for my man, it involves many of one sentence thoughts/prayers, randomly throughout the day.  But if and when I want (or need) to be a bit more lengthy in my praying it will more often be something along these lines.

I realize this way of praying for your spouse may seem a bit too personal to share (I'm almost blushing myself), but I felt that it just might be of some encouragement for someone; especially if you find yourself at a loss on how to pray for your spouse or even where to begin.  I'll be honest, I have no idea where I came up with this idea or from whom... but it's helpful to know that this way is certainly simple, effective and certainly beneficial.  You'll even notice that I've implemented some scipture verses to "help me" find the right words.

Here it is...oh, and just remember this method can happen at any time and place.  You can use it during dinner, while snuggling on the couch, or even while riding in the car.  It's not just for when your lying in bed.

Take your hand and rest it on his head.  Pray that his mind would be free from worry or discouragement. That he would think on things that are pure, lovely and true.  That his eyes would be clear and see the vision for his future.  That his eyes would keep focused on the Lord and not on the (crumbling)ground around him.  Pray that his ears would be inclined to hearing truth.  That they would let the "trash  & filth" of this world (if that's what he destined to hearing all day) go in one ear and out the other.  May the words of his mouth be pleasing to the Lord, may they speak kindness and truth.  May there be a door over his lips. Keep his tongue from speaking evil.

Rest your hand on his shoulder and down his back.   Pray that the weight of this world would not burden his shoulders.  That his shoulders would be held strong and square...not given in to slump or apathy.   "When his back is to the wall - may he remember that yours was to the cross, Lord".  Pray that he would (please) let things roll off his back instead of bearing the weight of burdens that are not his to bear. 

Reaching around to his chest... and over his heart.  Pray that he would "Trust in the Lord, with all his heart and lean not unto his own understanding."  That is heart would be true to you as a spouse, given to faithfulness, and commitment to you and your marriage.   Pray that his heart would remain softened to the way of the Lord and that it would continue to be a seedbed for growth and godliness.  For out of the heart the mouth speaks...

Down his arms to the tips of his fingers.  Pray that his arms would be strong for the task of care and providing for his family.  May they extend to embrace the hurting and hopeless around him.  May he have hands that are open to caring, sharing, extending grace and service...willingly.  May his hands ever be lifted up in praise and worship to his Maker.  Pointing others to Christ...

Pray that... when he sits, he will long to be in the presence of Jesus, not seated among the mockers.  That when he stands he will stand among the faithful...firm to the end...and not in the way of sinners.  When he lies down to sleep - that his sleep will be sweet and that he won't be afraid. 

Pray that he will run the race that is set before him... that he will walk in a manner worthy of the gospel.  That his legs will be strong to endure the journey - whether easy or hard.  May his feet be beautiful (I honestly don't know too many feet that are beautiful), but God's Word says "how beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news". And, so I ask that they would be quick and ready to go... to share the good news of the gospel.  Maybe your spouse just needs strength to put one foot forward, on a day-to-day basis... pray that his feet would not stumble, wander or be tempted to stray.  Pray that his feet hold firm and are focused to closely following in Jesus' foot steps.

  and so on, and so on....

See!  how easy it is to pray specifially for your spouse, by taking this approach?   I've got to tell you that I had just written this post and for some reason "SAVE" did not save... I had to start over with writing it(devastating, to say the least) but, which proves my next point.  Every time I go to using this method for praying for my spouse, the words will be different.  There is no exact formula... even though the idea and method is essentially the same.  And perhaps you've already thought of other things that you could pray.... and that is wonderful.  The point is to Pray for your spouse.  Or, for your children... I can think of the song that says...oh be careful little hands what you do; little feet where you go; little eyes what you see; little ears what you hear...  It is essentially using the same idea.

** The biggest secret is this; the whole time he thought he was getting a back rub or full body massage. ;)  (ta-daa...there you have it, and now my secret is totally out!)  But I think it's wonderful how we can use what seems as just mere physical touch with our spouse and in turn, implement a spiritual blessing as well.  You might be surprised how prayer changes things... not just for him but for yourself as well. 

Happy Valentine's Day!! to all of you...
How about implementing this idea into your Valentine's Day "special"? 
What are you planning special? 

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Heart Work in Marriage (part three)...

Here is( part one) and (part two)... and for the post that started this whole topic, you can read it here.

Continuing in our thoughts of marriage and all it's "heart work"... I decided to combine these next three areas into one post, although not necessarily addressing them in this same order.

  • Expectations/Never to take each other for granted
  • Going to bed angry
  • Using our manners with our spouses (Eph. 4:32)
When Scott and I first met... by the way, we met through eHarmony, almost 6 years ago.  I had already lived on my own for over 10 years and so had Scott (in some form or fashion).  We met each other with a lot of (unspoken) expectations.  He had come from a broken-home life... was a fairly new believer (of about 5 yrs)... and so, how I grew up (that being Conservative Mennonite) and mixing that up with how he was raised and all that he had experienced (very, very different), we knew that there would be a lot of things to work through.  We also knew that there would be things between us (and about us) that, due to our history, would work out quite well... but still... it would require us to "not take each other for granted". 

What does that look like, exactly?  It's when assumptions about another run wild.  When expectations of another are so high, its difficult to accept the other's failures.  Bottom line - it's selfish!

Saying those words of "Never to take each other for granted"... was serious.  We meant it then, and we still do, to this day.  But, it requires us to be rather intentional in our communication and in our expectations of each other.  As you read in this post...it's still an on-going process.  But, whose marriage isn't, right?

How do we attempt to do this? 
Ephesians 4:32 (KJV) says, "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." 

As simple as this verse may be, it is still so often by nature the hardest verse to live by.   I don't know if Scott thinks about this verse in the day-to-day of our marriage, like I do.  Perhaps it's because of it's simplicity, and the fact that I am trying to teach it to our children on a daily basis, that it's constantly on the back fringes of my mind. 

This verse is also a helpful for the improving of our "communication areas", as well.  Sometimes by saying nothing at all, actually, is what says it the best!  By choosing to be kind with our words...and by forgiving the "out of place" words... you will find that you'll want to talk more and you'll want to keep on communicating with your spouse.

This brings up the next part of using our manners with our spouse.  Implemeting common courtesies such as a simple "please", "thank-you", "I'm sorry", and "excuse me", etc.  is HUGE in helping to keep the "taking for granted" at bay.  Using our manners with someone (with anyone) is to put our expectations of them "down a notch".  It's putting others first, ourselves last and other's in between.  In that lies true JOY!  I still like to say, it's all in the little things.

"A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones" ~ Proverbs 14:30

This verse is really true, for me.  If Scott and I do go to bed angry with each other, which it honestly does happen, from time to time - although it is NOT our desire.  Immediately, I can tell the next morning, that I didn't sleep well - at all that night.  My body is tense, I ache all over and I feel "out-of-sorts".  I know how hard it will be to function in a pleasant manner towards my children and/or even to others if I am at all "off kilter" with my man, from the day/night before.

Our desire would be to "talk it out" - before the sun goes down.  There is even clear instruction from God's Word in Ephesians 4:26 -27 stating that you can be angry,  but in your anger do not sin.  So, if it goes unresolved and you continue to put the day(s) behind you... especially, if you're ignoring issues that need to be addressed or they're constantly getting pushed under the rug... you'll know it or at least start to realize that there is obvious sin involved with your spouse.

 Don't let sin rot away at your marriage relationship.  Don't give place to the devil (v.27).   He would love nothing more then to worm his way further into a rocky relationship - and really reek havoc.  If you give an inch, he'll take a mile.  Instead, if we're solid in our committment to one another; on the same page; willing to communicate; lose some of our expectations of one another; be kind and use our manners... then there really is not a lot of ground for the enemy to have a leg to stand on.

These are all the more reason to keep working at the Heart Issues in marriage.  It is not easy.  It is really, really hard. And we can't do it on our own... apart from Christ Jesus.  He needs to be at the Center - of our personal lives as well as our marriages.

I realize I've barely scratched the surface for the areas I've mentioned - I've actually probably raised a lot of questions and/or concerns.  Let me tell you, we are still very much a work in progress...and like I mentioned once before, we are certainly no experts on marriage - we're just two sinners who fell in love and are in dire need of God's grace, every single day.

: : Come back tomorrow as I let you in on a little secret in how I specifically pray for my man!!

The first photo is one of the largest Bridal Wreath bushes I have ever seen...so beautiful in Spring. The photo was taken over where we used to live.  Can you tell I'm getting ready for Spring?

Monday, February 8, 2010

snow love

When would it start?  The forecast was all a buzz, and all over the map.  Finally, for us... around 9:00 pm... the Winter White blessings began to swirl and the next morning; what a beautiful sight it was!  Nobody was going anywhere.  We were snowed in and lovein' it.

...well, not Aubrey so much.  She tends to "stand still" and not budge and inch in the snow.
She takes after her mother... I think.   I'll admit that willingly .

Snow LOVE!


Then, I got to play with something Saturday Morning that I have never used before.  This iron skillet.  I really think I am going to love it... It's just that I feel so intimidated.  Can you believe this?

But, I need your suggestions for seasoning it and caring for it and also any recomendations for what you LOVE to cook in an iron skillet.  PLEASE!  Please share your recipes or ideas with me...and I'll love you for it.

I told someone that I plan to enjoy being "Sewed in" while being snowed in...

This little "Be Mine" pocket pouch is actually a prototype idea for a new line in Bags by Bevy.  This one is actually to be given to my sister for Valentine's Day!  Just a little LOVE be sent her way...Shhhhh!! 

**Speaking of Bags by Bevy, have you taken a look-see, lately?  There are two new bags in there - great for a Valentine Gift, should you need one.  Hint.  Hint.

And, this next picture is of another bag being made for a family friend of ours who had requested one to be made - sometime after Christmas.  She is a very, very patient customer.  Thank you, Barbara!


One thing not so lovely, is that Aubrey has seemingly collided with a little "sick bug" over the weekend... she has had quite a few very bad diapers and actually threw up during the night - but still slept through... soundly.  Thank the Lord.   She is still her pleasant, fiesty little self....which makes me scratch my head.  She looks really wiped out...and almost white as the snow.  I stayed home from Church with her, Sunday,  and she slept her morning away...uhmmm...now I'm feeling the crawl myself.  s'no'w love about this stuff...


In effort to be practical and share the love of Jesus this weekend, we decided that since we were snowed in and not going anywhere that we would be hospitable and invite the two neighbor ladies over for dinner Saturday night.  They live immediately next door to us, so it only meant for them to walk across the front porch.  I made a  Lasagna Dinner, Ceasar Salad and homemade garlic rolls.  We enjoyed the visit and I think they did too. 

But I guess, I should tell you that this was my incentive to get my oven cleaned, due to a fire in the oven from making Monkey Bread, two nights before.  I had forgotten about the pan drippings from the bread, and went to make dinner Friday night only to have our oven a flame... uh.... near panic! to say the least.
So needless to say, cleaning the oven (though not planned & NOT LOVELY) was first thing on the list to do Saturday Morning while Scott and the little ones enjoyed the great white outdoors.

I'm glad we were snowed in.  A Great Weekend was had by all. 
How about you?  And, how about that Superbowl?

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